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Good day class, Today’s lesson will be about sets and subsets. In elementary school, we learned about sets in math class. When sets coincide they form what is called a subset. The linked subsets now form the overall set. Now that that quick math review is over, let’s apply it in real terms.

In elementary school, we learned about sets in math class. When sets coincide they form what is called a subset. The linked subsets now form the overall set. Now that that quick math review is over, let’s apply it in real terms.


The lingo of today equates circles to friendships. You’ve heard sayings like “my circle so small, it’s like a dot” or “I keep a small circle…”All these apply to our friends or the friendships we have. We may have many or few, but no matter how many persons form your circle there always lies a subset.

Recently, I observed and experienced some encounters that led me to start thinking about the circles within my circle. The reality of these circles within your circle is that your friendships mesh because as the saying go “friend got the friend”. So by extension, just like marriages and in-laws, we begin to invite and accept the friends-in-law or friends of our friends.

With time the dynamics of any friendship will change. Just like the seasons, there will be high and lows, falls and springs. Just as in the Fall the leaves fall off and whither away then Spring comes and blossoms a new set of leaves, it is the same with friendships.

The thing that should never change in our friendships, though, is our loyalty and support of our friends. If that has to be questioned then that friendship needs to be reevaluated. If I can’t count on my friends to support and encourage me, not just with lip service but by their actions, then for what other reasons should I need a friend? I have always believed that friends are to be the backbone of your life. Are my expectations too high?

And that’s another thing…expectations. We need to become more realistic with our expectations of others. We can’t always count on them to be there when you don’t fall into their immediate priorities. We can’t expect them to always be at our beck and call when we only hear from them occasionally. We need to learn to differentiate our sets and subsets, though interconnected they can very much stand on their own.

Friendships are good, friendships are important but not all are lasting. You may have had a childhood friend who now passes you as if they never knew you. You may have just met a person a few months ago and it’s as if you knew them all your life because they are always there for you. Always remember that you were born with your friend because you will always have yourself to count on.

Now it is time to work out these sets, are you in the subset of your friendships or on the peripheries of the overall set? Whatever the case, you have to work out the circles within your circle.

TeAnn Thomas
TeAnn Thomas
TeAnn is an island girl at heart and her patriotic love of country pushed her into the field of Economics. She is currently a Junior Business Analyst on the road to becoming an Economist. A lover of all things Dwayne Wade, TeAnn believes she is married to him in another life; in real life, however, she is very much unmarried but happily enjoys spending time with loved ones. She is also a dog lover and a mother to one, Jade, whom she literally cares for like a child. She can be reached via email at tbthomas@letsinc.org

1 Comment

  1. Brianna Williams says:

    Great Post Teann! I love this as I have been re evaluating my friendships as well. I don’t think your expectations are too high because friends are supposed to be there when you need them. I’m sure the good friends will have a great reason to not be there at the time, but if you find yourself questioning your friendships in terms of support something is wrong. Excellent.

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